Joe asked me the other day if he’d ever been alone.

I said he’d been on his own

but never actually alone.

Not ever, not even for a second in his entire life.

He was amazed by that.

And it got me thinking…

at what age will I let him be alone? 

And how will I feel when he is?





8 Responses to “Alone”

  1. Debbie St. Germain Says:
    May 13th, 2010 at 5:12 pm

    That is a tough one for us moms.
    I just tried some flower pounding with buttercups, now I am wondering what else I can smash, lol.


  2. scentedsweetpeas Says:
    May 13th, 2010 at 8:03 pm

    Eldest sweetpea is now at that age when he wants to go out alone (well with middle sweetpea). It was horrid at first, I had to do that chat about not trusting people. All their life I have taught them to love people and enjoy peoples company and now I have to tell them the bad side of them 🙁 They only go out for a quick go on their electric scooter but it is long enough for me at the moment.

  3. Claire Says:
    May 13th, 2010 at 8:04 pm

    About 11 or 12 I think. That’s when they go to high school and mine had to get on the bus or walk (usually with friends but not always.) Don’t worry about it. The transition when they start big school is amazing. They just seem to grow up overnight. It’s not such a bad thing, I think it does them good to have to take a little bit of responsibility for themselves, even if it’s only sorting their own school bag and books.
    Claire x
    Great photo by the way.

  4. wonderwoman Says:
    May 13th, 2010 at 8:17 pm

    i think it feels like a huge step for us, but for them its exciting and grown up!


  5. Shirley Says:
    May 13th, 2010 at 9:47 pm

    The hardest thing we ever do as a mother is let our children go. We can get some satisfaction from knowning we have equiped them well for what life will bring them.

  6. Ali Says:
    May 14th, 2010 at 5:44 am

    Sounds a bit cheesy, but I think, when they are well-loved, somehow they are never alone.

    Plus, we live in a village – it’s near impossible to escape people who know them. Even if I send Mark out to the shop for a newspaper on his own, he usually returns with a friend in tow.

  7. Pat Sieler Says:
    May 14th, 2010 at 3:15 pm

    At a certain point, you won’t have a choice. However, having said that,you will lurk in the shadows till the trust develops. Find ways of carefully asking questions, so he doesn’t think that you are watching so closely. There comes a time when he needs to feel independent but still connected. You remember! What was it? At 11 or 12?
    But maybe he just wants to know that the safety net is always there.

  8. monica Says:
    May 14th, 2010 at 8:52 pm

    oh dear. I don’t want to think about that… I just they will never feel ‘alone’ even when they physically are. That’s what I’m working on anyway.

    Have a nice weekend.

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